Lest time I have written about the second phase of relationship casually named love. I tried to show that loving is more than kissing, touching and making out. It is living together, being each other hope and promise. However, as we all know, it is not always good enough. After passionate start we have to face the real life. It is the test that some pass, other fail. Let's think what happens when there is not enough of love in love. The simplest answer is that we start to look for it elsewhere. This is the source of all kind of affairs or one-night adventures. No matter what psychologists or sociologists would say, it is always the reason. Our relationship is not all we need and get from life.
Like the world is not enough, our love is not enough. We want more, we want different, we want... Do we?
Maybe it is just need to be good at something. Maybe our boss is making trash of us and we need to feel there is at least one thing we are good at? Coming home, talking about work and nothing. The sex is as usual, food is good but nothing new. And yes, don't forget to take trash out. So I do, they say. I take the trash out and leave it to someone else. Someone who will understand and give me what I need.
The problem is that even if you try to change, not many of us can. Sometimes alcohol can give the boost and confidence, but our trying will do no good if the other party has not drunk at least us much as we did. On the other hand we try to do something crazy, trip, gift or treat, but does it work? No, it doesn't, not in long term at least. If you drop a rock into the lake, the wave will come... and go. You need to throw them often to see any permanent effect. This the same with couples in the getting used to phase. They are like one huge lake. One partner throws the rock, the second one hardly notices the waves.
This all sound so pessimistic but is it so? Everyday smile, hug on the way to work, the smell and touch. They all can bring good emotions. Just remember not to let go. Try, it is worth it. I do believe in you...
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